A few weeks ago I had a stimulating conversation with an awesome and inspiring coworker about Dr. Gary Chapman's Incredible literary work: The Five Love Languages. If you haven't read it, I HIGHLY RECOMMEND that you do. I always tell everyone that if people read this book, breakups in relationships, and divorces in marriages would be significantly reduced. (Yes! So it is possible to be in an intimate relationship and possibly not get hurt, awesome!)
In his book, Dr. Chapman writes about his discovery of 5 distinct "love languages" he's observed from his 30 plus years as a marriage counselor. Dr. Chapman states that in all relationships the "in love" feeling where partners feel their significant others can do no wrong or hurt them lasts only 2 years tops. (And aren't you glad you arrived at this article about love!)
Afterwards, your partners warts will start to show and if couples don't speak the same love language and fill one another's love tanks, a breakup will inevitably occur. (Along with the usual name calling and every past mistake you've ever made brought up!) The good news however is that if you know your loved one's distinct love language and use it to fill their love tank, you will absolutely notice a difference in your relationship dynamics.
Now Dr. Chapman says there are a total of 5 love languages which are:
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Receiving Gifts
Acts of Service
Physical Touch
Today I'm here to champion the discovery I made over the weekend about a secret 6th Love Language: Giving Food. Recently I noticed that things in life are at their strongest in pairs & even numbers. Have you noticed that car engines are 4,6,8,10, or 12 cylinders? There's a reason for this which I'll explore more in a different post. But everything in life I feel is strongest, true, most complete when in pairs and or even #'s. Night and Day, God and Satan, Love and Hate, Good and Evil, Singing Duets, The 4 seasons, The 10 commandments, The 12 simple music notes. Notice the trend?
This is why I"m a big believer in Monogamy. We are strongest and most happiest, most in balance when we're with one partner only. When was the last time you heard of a love triangle that turned out well or a "playa" bedding multiple woman being happy? It doesn't happen. (So guys, grow up and be a man. Commit to only one woman. Trust me you'll be happier.)
This is why I"m a big believer in Monogamy. We are strongest and most happiest, most in balance when we're with one partner only. When was the last time you heard of a love triangle that turned out well or a "playa" bedding multiple woman being happy? It doesn't happen. (So guys, grow up and be a man. Commit to only one woman. Trust me you'll be happier.)
So with this new found philosophy of pairing and evenness, I knew there had to be a 6th love language. My theory so far is Food. When you really think about it. Food can unify the 5 languages. Obviously it fits the language of gifts, plus it is an act of service when you prepare a meal for your partner (aka your lovie dovie, marshmallow, wubby, and every other weird nickname you guys have! ) And it takes quality time to think, plan, and execute the food. Also physical touch is a necessity to experience great food in your mouth. And before or after every loving food experience, words of affirmation and appreciation are sure to follow.
Plus when you think about it, food is a centerpiece of dating and relationships. Food is loving and not hateful. You don't hear couples say, "I hate you and I'm going to bake you a german chocolate cake!" or "I want a divorce and here are some oatmeal raising cookies!" OK so I know that was far fetched but you get the point. So far all readers of the blog, I'm curious about your thoughts and comments. If you think there's a better 6th love language let me know in the comments section.
Also one final thought for everyone. Remember daily to Love. It's what makes a Subaru a Subaru. Haha but seriously, l learned love is a verb, not a noun. So love everyone, because there love tanks need it. Until the next post peace out and be happy while being awesome too!
Plus when you think about it, food is a centerpiece of dating and relationships. Food is loving and not hateful. You don't hear couples say, "I hate you and I'm going to bake you a german chocolate cake!" or "I want a divorce and here are some oatmeal raising cookies!" OK so I know that was far fetched but you get the point. So far all readers of the blog, I'm curious about your thoughts and comments. If you think there's a better 6th love language let me know in the comments section.
Also one final thought for everyone. Remember daily to Love. It's what makes a Subaru a Subaru. Haha but seriously, l learned love is a verb, not a noun. So love everyone, because there love tanks need it. Until the next post peace out and be happy while being awesome too!
Tony
Writer, Self Proclaimed Comedian, Zenmaster, & Pizza Lover...
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