The other night, I was watching a favorite show of mine, The Avatar series. At the end of the episode there was an inspirational line I wanted to write about.
"When we've hit our lowest point, we are open to the greatest change"
After hearing this, I said to myself, what a deep and great message this is! Whatever writer at Nickelodeon wrote this, I say thank you for this gift and inspiration. This line is a universal truth, a law of life. Think about it, haven't we all experienced some of our greatest changes, greatest growths, physically, mentally, and spiritually after a low point?
When we hit rock bottom, is when great change occurs. When we go bankrupt, we change our financial habits. When one survives a health scare, we change health habits. When one goes through a bad breakup, we change our mate selection process.
Pain from these low points is the ultimate change agent. A lot of people go to great lengths to avoid it. I feel when you do this though, you're taking less risks. Numbing yourself to life and it's great joys. Pain is purposeful. It's purpose to humble, to drive, to lift. I hope everyone will realize the next time one hits a low point, it's just the worlds way of changing you in a better direction.
Thank you again
Wednesday, October 24, 2012
Thursday, October 11, 2012
Words
"Anyone who thinks that they are too small to make a difference has never tried to fall asleep with a mosquito in the room." Christie Todd Whitman
Hey everyone, today I wanted to debunk a myth, a cliche we've heard numerous times growing up. The saying that "Its not what you say, but how you say it that matters" This is only half true. It should really be restated as "the words you use and how you delivery them matters most."
This takes me back to a sociology class I took when I was 16. The professor gave an example of how diction, word choice can have an impactful response on people. He lectured about how some sociologist researchers conducted a survey about school prayer. There were two nearly identical surveys made. With the exception of one difference, the two surveys differed by only one word. One line in the survey asked "Do you think it's OK for schools to not allow school prayer?" This generated a majority response from people that it was alright for schools to not allow school prayer. The other survey asked "Do you think its OK for schools to forbid school prayer?" This survey, caused a backlash. Overwhelming majority responded with a no, and strong reactions! "How dare you FORBID school prayer!" "This is an injustice?" These are the ones I can write, there was more but I'd like to keep this blog clean as I can.
The only change in the survey guys, was just one simple word. From not allow to forbid. This one little shift caused a huge impact. This shows us that words are powerful, what we do say and how we say both matter. The great coaches, motivational speakers are masters of using the right words. They understand this phenomenon. I've seen speakers motivate, impact people about finances using the words building up to a critical mass. Speakers use, take action, peak performance, ultimate advantage, unlimited abundance of wealth! The word list can go on and on. Words create actions, so choose wisely. In the english language, there's only 100,000 positive words, compared to 200,000 negative words. This explains why we have so much depression, anger, resentment, and other negative feelings.
In closing, i hope everyone can take away from this about choosing a great word next time they're speaking to their significant other, their colleagues, their employees, their bosses, their children. The words you use in every interaction WILL make on some level, an impact on that other person's life and ultimately yours.
Thanks again
Hey everyone, today I wanted to debunk a myth, a cliche we've heard numerous times growing up. The saying that "Its not what you say, but how you say it that matters" This is only half true. It should really be restated as "the words you use and how you delivery them matters most."
This takes me back to a sociology class I took when I was 16. The professor gave an example of how diction, word choice can have an impactful response on people. He lectured about how some sociologist researchers conducted a survey about school prayer. There were two nearly identical surveys made. With the exception of one difference, the two surveys differed by only one word. One line in the survey asked "Do you think it's OK for schools to not allow school prayer?" This generated a majority response from people that it was alright for schools to not allow school prayer. The other survey asked "Do you think its OK for schools to forbid school prayer?" This survey, caused a backlash. Overwhelming majority responded with a no, and strong reactions! "How dare you FORBID school prayer!" "This is an injustice?" These are the ones I can write, there was more but I'd like to keep this blog clean as I can.
The only change in the survey guys, was just one simple word. From not allow to forbid. This one little shift caused a huge impact. This shows us that words are powerful, what we do say and how we say both matter. The great coaches, motivational speakers are masters of using the right words. They understand this phenomenon. I've seen speakers motivate, impact people about finances using the words building up to a critical mass. Speakers use, take action, peak performance, ultimate advantage, unlimited abundance of wealth! The word list can go on and on. Words create actions, so choose wisely. In the english language, there's only 100,000 positive words, compared to 200,000 negative words. This explains why we have so much depression, anger, resentment, and other negative feelings.
In closing, i hope everyone can take away from this about choosing a great word next time they're speaking to their significant other, their colleagues, their employees, their bosses, their children. The words you use in every interaction WILL make on some level, an impact on that other person's life and ultimately yours.
Thanks again
Wednesday, October 3, 2012
The 6 Basic Human Needs
Hi everyone, thank you for reading my blog. I write this blog, for you guys, the readers. This article on the 6 Basic Human Needs was inspired after a chat I just had with a great friend of mine. With her permission, I wanted to share some parts of our chat.
My friend today revealed that she recently broke up with her boyfriend. To give you a little background, she told me that she was dating her boyfriend for about a year and were living together. Being a good friend I felt that I should try to comfort her. So during our phone conversation she asked me the question of why she wasn't crying? She said she only felt a little sad and hurt, but overall was handling the situation well. I really didn't know what to answer her. I usually shy away from giving advice when I'm not too certain with the surrounding facts of a situation. After conversing with my friend a few more minutes, we hung up.
Afterwards, I felt and knew there was more I could've done. An answer she could use to help her. So I turned to my mentor for many things it seems nowadays, Tony Robbins. A little background, if you haven't ready any of Tonys Books, Unlimited Power, or Awaken the Giant Within, it's a must read! A great source to find Tony is youtube. After texting my friend several videos that Tony did on relationships, I had a breakthrough mental moment.
Tony teaches that the 6 basic human needs are 1. Certainty 2. Uncertainty 3. Love 4. Significance 5. Growth 6. Contribution. It dawned on me that these 6 basic needs apply to almost everything that's important to us. It can be applied to why we stay or don't stay at a job or profession. Why we make the life decisions that we made in the past. Why some relationships, business or intimate work out or not. Let me go over each need individually.
Certainty, we all need it. It's our foundation, our safe haven. We all need to know that we have friends we can depend on. We need to know our loved ones will always love us no matter what. We all desire that if we do a particular thing, life will guarantee a particular result. Next is uncertainty. My friend asked me about why uncertainty is here on the list of human needs. My response. Balance. Uncertainty brings variety in our life. It brings excitement, it can bring passion, new possibilities. It's a counter balance to the boring and predictability of certainty in our lives.
Love, this human need I feel brings a lot of various interpretations . So I'll share mine. Love is our life's true purpose, our mission. Every religion, god(s) talks about it. Expressing it in many forms. Love is the fuel, that drives us when we are true to our core, our center. For relationships, I read once, that love is not a destination. Couples use love as a noun, thinking it's a place or destination they reach. That's a mistake. Use love as a verb. If your significant other isn't responding to you, love them. Just love, it's a verb, not a noun.
Significance, something we all crave. Deep down I feel all humans want to feel important. Feel like they made a difference in the lives of their children. Feel like they made a difference at work, at home with their spouse. Feel like they're making a difference in this world. It's why we have so many great charities. Outlets for people to do what they love. Which segue ways into the last 2 needs. Growth and Contribution. The needs of the spirit. Growth, the minute it stops, physically, spiritually, emotionally, life will stop, including relationships, business or personal. Contribution, like growth, are needs of the spirit. When one learns to serve others, rather than just themselves, true fulfillment happens.
Think about this folks, these 6 basic needs should really be renamed the 6 essential pillars, foundations for all our relations to this world. Our relations to our spouses, our businesses, our passions, relations with others, relations with our selves, children, parents, and others there's too many to list. To have extraordinary relationships to anything we're involved with, we need to have all 6 of these needs met. Missing even one, will result in just ordinary relationships, and ultimately a unfulfilled and most possibly, a failed relationship.
Thank you again for reading the blog and article. Feel free to share this with anyone. Hope this article filled all 6 of your needs : )
My friend today revealed that she recently broke up with her boyfriend. To give you a little background, she told me that she was dating her boyfriend for about a year and were living together. Being a good friend I felt that I should try to comfort her. So during our phone conversation she asked me the question of why she wasn't crying? She said she only felt a little sad and hurt, but overall was handling the situation well. I really didn't know what to answer her. I usually shy away from giving advice when I'm not too certain with the surrounding facts of a situation. After conversing with my friend a few more minutes, we hung up.
Afterwards, I felt and knew there was more I could've done. An answer she could use to help her. So I turned to my mentor for many things it seems nowadays, Tony Robbins. A little background, if you haven't ready any of Tonys Books, Unlimited Power, or Awaken the Giant Within, it's a must read! A great source to find Tony is youtube. After texting my friend several videos that Tony did on relationships, I had a breakthrough mental moment.
Tony teaches that the 6 basic human needs are 1. Certainty 2. Uncertainty 3. Love 4. Significance 5. Growth 6. Contribution. It dawned on me that these 6 basic needs apply to almost everything that's important to us. It can be applied to why we stay or don't stay at a job or profession. Why we make the life decisions that we made in the past. Why some relationships, business or intimate work out or not. Let me go over each need individually.
Certainty, we all need it. It's our foundation, our safe haven. We all need to know that we have friends we can depend on. We need to know our loved ones will always love us no matter what. We all desire that if we do a particular thing, life will guarantee a particular result. Next is uncertainty. My friend asked me about why uncertainty is here on the list of human needs. My response. Balance. Uncertainty brings variety in our life. It brings excitement, it can bring passion, new possibilities. It's a counter balance to the boring and predictability of certainty in our lives.
Love, this human need I feel brings a lot of various interpretations . So I'll share mine. Love is our life's true purpose, our mission. Every religion, god(s) talks about it. Expressing it in many forms. Love is the fuel, that drives us when we are true to our core, our center. For relationships, I read once, that love is not a destination. Couples use love as a noun, thinking it's a place or destination they reach. That's a mistake. Use love as a verb. If your significant other isn't responding to you, love them. Just love, it's a verb, not a noun.
Significance, something we all crave. Deep down I feel all humans want to feel important. Feel like they made a difference in the lives of their children. Feel like they made a difference at work, at home with their spouse. Feel like they're making a difference in this world. It's why we have so many great charities. Outlets for people to do what they love. Which segue ways into the last 2 needs. Growth and Contribution. The needs of the spirit. Growth, the minute it stops, physically, spiritually, emotionally, life will stop, including relationships, business or personal. Contribution, like growth, are needs of the spirit. When one learns to serve others, rather than just themselves, true fulfillment happens.
Think about this folks, these 6 basic needs should really be renamed the 6 essential pillars, foundations for all our relations to this world. Our relations to our spouses, our businesses, our passions, relations with others, relations with our selves, children, parents, and others there's too many to list. To have extraordinary relationships to anything we're involved with, we need to have all 6 of these needs met. Missing even one, will result in just ordinary relationships, and ultimately a unfulfilled and most possibly, a failed relationship.
Thank you again for reading the blog and article. Feel free to share this with anyone. Hope this article filled all 6 of your needs : )
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